moments to share, moments to care
a musical orgasm.
and another one.
and another one.
finally i can feel again.
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they say "never push loyal employees to the point they don't care"
generally i agree.
but the question is who or what are the employees loyal to?
i've seen so many of them being loyal to their safe seat where they don't have to do anything for years, and then changes come, they are asked to change along, change their tasks, adapt to new technology and that's when they are no longer loyal.
i've heard quotes such as "how dare you, i've been in this company for 15 years!"
are they really loyal to the company, wanting to spend their time, adapt to changes, do what is necessary to grow, improve? or do they want things to stay the same for many years to come, as long as the employee keeps getting paid?
we live in a rapid time where change is like a huge wave of tsunami, strong and inevitable - things change, the world changes and if we don't embrace this change, initiate it, create it or at least admit it, we will be flushed away in a second.
so before you hang out your loyalty flag, think again....
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stop trying to be interesting.
start being interested.
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i hope this will be the last entry of that mind blowing book. i'm not even half way there, but it keeps blowing my mind.
"Let us try to translate the most famous line of American Declaration of Independence into biological terms:
We hold there truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal. That they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights that among these are life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
According to the science of biology, people were not "created". They have evolved. And they certainly did not evolve to be "equal". The idea of equality is inextricably intertwined with the idea of creation. The Americans got the idea of equality from Christianity which argues that every person has a divinely created soul, and that all souls are equal before God. However, if we do not believe in the Christian myths about God, creating and souls, what does it mean that all people are "equal"? Evolution is based on difference, not on equality. Every person carries a...
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still a mind blowing book, so it must be continued.
how the success of a species is measured by the number of dna specimens and not level of happiness (thus, miserable cattle this very moment is a more successful species than an almost extinct happy species somewhere in madagascar living free (just like a company's success is measured by numbers, not by the happiness of their employees - yes, yes, yes, there is a voice from the past saying "the more zeroes there are in the contract the better").
how the complainers and criers were eliminated fast, euthanized even for their own good.
how in order to tame sheep, the most curious, the most aggressive and the fastest ones were killed first, when one needed an obedient flock.
how the humans made a slight miscalculations and from free and healthy species we were domesticated by wheat, an seemingly insignificant plant that became the king of everything.
this and more also helped me solve a situation at work where my employee openly threatened to leave...
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by Yuval Noah Harari
mind blowing book. mind blowing.
it confirms the ideas i've had forever and before.
i cannot even start to quote it, but basically everything is in our heads. homo sapiens in the only species that believes in 10 things they haven't seen, heard or experienced before breakfast. it is the only specie that survives because of gossip. where large groups can agree on believing the same imaginary thing and act on it. how to completely strange specimens can get along instantly by agreeing on "values", "borders", "laws" - something existing only in their minds.
how one thinks you are naive but then those are just different "realities" people live in, and people with similar realities sell their idea and if it is beneficial enough or sticky enough, it takes over the world.
how we live our every day in our heads, basing out trust in things that don't exist.
amazing.
i can only read it 5-10 pages at the time, since it is that deep, but it will shake the ground you're standing on...
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adult children are used to a very high stress level. living in constant dysfunction and drama makes it our natural habitat. first 18 years of our lives we spend in humiliation - that is when our personality is formed. our parents often told us we were not not good enough - even when we had achieved a level that was higher than average.
now being sober i try to avoid stress and drama at all costs. my life has become quite calm. it will take at least another year to feel stable, but now, looking back, i see clearly how i was drawn to drama, closing my eyes and jumping into events, acting without thinking. there is a way out though, and it starts with some very basic things. good sleep. good food. breathing exercises, walks, nature. reading. listening to music. those are simple but healing things. when thinking what last 12 months have consisted of, it is surprising i'm alive.
anything to stay calm and carry on.
i no longer seek excitement. i only seek peace.
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for many years i had been playing the victim.
but now, the first step would mean for me to admit i was powerless to the effects of family dysfunction, and i misunderstood it as stepping back to the role of a victim which i refused to do.
however the effects cannot be handled til i admit them.
a fine line between playing a victim (being helpless) and admitting the flaws (being powerless).
a fine line between using the situation as an excuse to pull bs and admitting the facts and dealing with them.
it was also difficult to admit i suffer from depression (and have for over 8 years at least). i see many happy people, dancing in their lives, and i want to jump along with them with both legs broken. i see other people with broken legs and look at them with disgust, since they remind me how broken i am myself. i want to point out their flaws so i don't have to deal with my own. i want to pretend, but the more i do, the more it hurts.
i wanted to be perfect fast. i was sober - why wasn't sobriety enough...
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