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moments to share, moments to care

although this year started off weirdly and continued with some insanity as a stinky burp from the previous year, what followed has been life changing.

- i got help. i met someone who helped me realize i'm an alcoholic. i got treatment, help and support, and i am sober. i'm attending aa meetings, where i discovered the most wonderful, honest and greatest people i've met in a long time.

- i also realized i am a person who comes from a dysfunctional family. my life is often lead by fear, manipulations, seeking excitement and dangerous situations. i fear angry people, live in guilt, am way too critical of myself and others, seek for approval and live life from the victim's point on view. therapy never helped and never would help - since i kept seeking the parents whose love i missed so much - therefore a therapist would only fill the role of my imaginary caring parent. but i found help for that as well.

- i admitted i have bulimia mixing with other eating disorder. i got help for that.

- finally i...

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-06-01

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in most cases, a woman will be stronger than a man.
she will be more responsible, more mature, more disciplined and emotionally free.

a woman should never expect a man to be stronger than her.
she should never await a man to "save" her.
she will rather warmly smile when her man acts as a boy, accept his flaws, weaknesses and cherish him for all the respectful, amazing, and admirable traits he possesses.

a woman is the keeper of the family.
the roots of the home.

the woman.

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-05-15

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i'm starting to recognize myself.

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-05-06

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it took me 4 therapists, one of which told me that drinking is ok and taking drugs is ok.
it took me 31 years.
and it took me a caring ex who brought me to the best advice giver i've had over a very long time.

love yourself with the kind of love you wish others gave you.
treat yourself the way you wish to be treated.
take responsibility for your life.
have healthy relationships.
draw boundaries.
take "timeout" when you feel things are not completely right.

and praise yourself for the things you do well.

love yourself.

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-05-02

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goodbye misery.

welcome, amazing life. i'm really enjoying you.

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-04-04

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the situation doesn't control me anymore.
i control it.

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-03-24

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you blamed yourself too hard.
you tried to change your life overnight. but change happens slowly, step by step. change is a process, a progress. you know it better than anyone. but i guess you forgot.

i'm proud you took charge of your life. i'm also happy you found the environment and people that helped you blossom more than you have over the past years. i'm proud to see you don't drink, you're back to gym. i'm proud to see how loved you are. you are no longer alone. you are no longer lonely. you are no longer weak.

i am proud of you.
and very very happy for you.

you exceeded all the expectations.

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-03-22

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when she finally awoke. and felt like the happiest woman on the planet.

Skrivet av arlona, 2018-02-09

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